Intimacy and Economics

Having experienced almost all venues of sex work I often reflect on which venue makes the most sense for both client and provider.

I might not be the best looking or the smoothest of men, but one thing I have learned over time is that ladies do indeed want whatever money I have; and I have been more that happy to give it to them.

The question then arises, what is the most ethical way to engage ladies who offer companionship for money? The two top competing philosophies are high end escorting and sugar babying.

On the surface I understand why the sugar baby model is salient. It follows closely to the predefined role(s) that women are expected to play in society. It is ordered on a somewhat monogamous basis which allows some women to feel as though they have avoided the whore stigma associated with conventional sex work avenues. It also allows males to feel a certain level of ownership over a female partner, which some men find desirable.

PERSONAL NOTE

> I spent almost 2 years as a sugar daddy to a woman in graduate school. An arrangement that left me with a unique taste of what it means to simulate a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship and what it means to try to purchase love on a monthly schedule.

The reality is that sugar baby aspirations are largely a sham and do not translate well in the world of internet hook-ups. They often are perpetrated by ladies who wish to extract funds from lonely men with the hope of not having to offer intimacy in return. Granted, many sugar relations are quite natural and valid, but they are hard to mass produce on the scale that the internet offers.

On a mathematical level notice the following. Sugar websites often have 20+ females for each male participant (which obviously is an unsustainable metric). Higher end escorting sites usually have 3+ males per female, which is much more natural and sustainable.

Over the last 7 months I have shifted from being sugar daddy to being a mid - high end hobbyist. With time moving more to the higher end. My experience leads me to believe that the high end escort/hobbyist model is superior for all parties involved under certain caveats.

RATIONALE

Of course some ladies involved in escorting are under certain pressures which make their circumstances less than desirable (although I will under no circumstances use the term trafficking), but I have found certain patterns which leave me highly optimistic.

You see, the premise against escorting is the traditional concept that the more sex a man has the more valuable he is while the more sex a woman has the less valuable she is. This unfortunate calculus has been central to the intimate dysfunction which has acted as a catalyst to the new age sexual paradigm that is escorting. Hopefully we will evolve beyond this non-sense as we realize that women are also entitled to the freedom of on demand intimacy.

Now that we know that higher end escorts are generally safe from violence and STDs the answer seems obvious. Sugar babying is an extension of old fashioned ideas which reinforce patriarchal notions of female restriction. High end escorting is a more just in time model that fills the needs of all parties while allowing the freedom and distance that most modern people desire.

IN CONCLUSION

A woman’s value DOES NOT decrease with the number of sexual encounters that she has had. In fact it probably increases as she becomes more seasoned and in tune with her own sexual nature. Whore stigma is a horrendous framework encouraged and enforced largely by males who wish to control female thought patterns. Luckily there exists an elite group of high quality ladies who refuse to adhere to these discriminatory practices. Our fees paid are another form of appreciation for their bravery!

Those who have been in the hobby for any length of time will notice that many changes have taken place over the years. Technology and globalization have changed markets for intimacy in ways that we could have never imagined.

With age men in the hobby tend to become more refined. Seasoned hobbyists tend to gravitate towards ladies who are more upscale and educated. Many women who sell their time and affection do so because of reasons of financial hardship, the seasoned hobbyists often is looking for more. He often craves the companionship of a professional lady who takes pride in her craft.

The social networking arena has given the modern hobbyist an avenue for finding such ladies. Escorts have gravitated to the internet and now can be found on many popular websites such as Twitter and Google+. Currently it appears that Twitter is the king of hobby oriented social networking, many men and women gather nightly in an attempt to get to know each other better. Unfortunately, most social networks are not specifically designed for hobbying and there is always the risk that these sites will begin to discriminate at some point in the future.

Enter certifiedtoprovide.com, as far as this blog can tell this website is the first hobby friendly social network. It is modeled after Facebook and requires verification before access is granted.

Many would argue that Twitter is the new king of social networking and that Facebook is on their way out. Indeed this blog would have preferred a more Twitter like feel, but we do congratulate them on making a ground breaking effort into virgin territory.

MY EXPERIENCE

I am yet to attain an intimate appointment from membership on this website. I however did have three occasions when I came close. The most recent was a lovely middle aged escort from the United Kingdom who was on tour on the American east coast, unfortunately our timing and location did not coincide.

CONCLUSION

This site is a little slow for the time being, updates happen infrequently and responses to inqueries are few. Also the technology is a little behind the times, graphics do not always render and mentioning members in posts does not seem to notify them via e-mail. That being said we think the concept is sound and will be perfected in time. Perhaps they can change their layout from a Facebook model to a Twitter model by installing status.net on their servers.

Understand this much, if this product was to become refined it would be incredibly valuable. So much so that male members would likely be willing to pay for membership. This product is crude, but as we all know technology only improves with time. Either this product will improve or it will be supplanted by the next competitor.

Good job on your first effort guys! Contact us if you need advice on where to go next!

From time to time I engage the anti-trafficking community, I have been known to meet with groups and individuals both in person and online trying hard to understand their point of view. Generally speaking I get the impression that these people are NOT really concerned with trafficking and that their real motive seems to be more based on personal feelings and emotions sprinkled with a touch of puritanicalism.

Who are the anti-trafficking community? They tend to fall into a few stereotypical categories.

• Religious right conservatives who believe marriage and family are sacred, and by extension that liberal sex is in violation of that goal.

• Anti-male feminists, who feel as though men are abusive by nature and that sex work clients are depraved.

• White knight males, who are focused on trying to defend women and save them from a life of harm.

• Academics who focus on the (more visible) lower ends of the sex work trade. They generally focus on sex workers who are homeless, drug addicted, illegal immigrant or non-English speaking.

INSPIRATION FOR THIS ARTICLE

Something I find very annoying is when I hear someone in the anti-trafficking community explain how enacting a “Swedish model” in a place like America would be a wonderful idea and that it has been so successful in Sweden with regards to reducing prostitution.

How would anyone know how much prostitution is taking place in Sweden? Many who favor the Swedish model look to street prostitution as a barometer, and claim that it is down 90% in Sweden. In reality Sweden never had a large street prostitution trade largely due to its harsh climate and another thing to keep in mind is that street prostitution is down all over the world. Indeed similar to America and every other country in the world the Swedish sex work industry has gone indoors.

AMERICA VS. SWEDEN

The anti-trafficking community fails to understand that Sweden and America are two fundamentally different countries on almost every level.

In comparison:

• America is capitalistic, Sweden is socialistic with a large social safety net.

• America is ethnically diverse and individualistic by design, Sweden is more ethnically homogeneous and unified.

• With ethnic diversity America also carries a huge amount of racial baggage, Sweden is a country where racial issues are a more recent phenomenon.

• America is more socially conservative with a large religious base, Sweden is a notoriously secular and liberal county.

• America has large income gaps between rich and poor, Sweden is one of the most income equal countries on earth.

• America criminalizes paid sex for all parties involved, Sweden only criminalizes buyers and views sellers as victims with no choice.

THE SWEDISH MODEL, NATIONAL PATTERNS AND TRENDS

When a country aims to implement the Swedish model, they are usually coming from a tradition of legal or tolerated sex work. The Swedish model is usually considered after a country realizes that many of its sex workers come from overseas and are ethnically different. This is the case for Sweden, Norway and Iceland; when sex workers were more ethnically familiar they were tolerated, when they showed up with more brown and yellow hues they became a problem.

In reality Sweden, Norway etc. are not very interesting experiments as they are small countries with societies that are not highly complex. The most interesting experiment will be France who apparently is considering a Swedish approach. In a very predictable fashion France is now concerned about sex workers because many more of them are now ethnic minorities. France might now attempt to restrict sex work, this will be very unusual because France of all counties has had one of the world’s most interesting and colorful sex work cultures for centuries.

WHY THE SWEDISH MODEL CANNOT WORK FOR AMERICA

America, if it ever was to consider a Swedish model, would be the most interesting experiment of all. Unlike Europe, America has a long tradition of criminalizing buyers with arrest and public shaming. Proponents of the Swedish model in America would like to see women in the industry not be arrested and instead focus and double down on efforts to out buyers, their goal would be to make punishment as harsh as possible scaring away all potential clients. In their view this is the best way to eliminate demand and finally end the sex trade once and for all.

This argument makes me want to both laugh and cry at the same time. This view is so naive and fundamentally flawed that it makes me realize just how little the anti-trafficking community understands about modern day sex work. First, American buyers are hardened (no pun intended), we already come from a tradition of high police engagement. Those of us who continue to practice the lifestyle do so understanding that we are always at risk, we have made a firm decision that we will not be scared out! Second, women fight hard for the right to sell sex (even with the threat of criminalization hanging over their heads) everyday whether you like it or not, many women make the choice that this is the line of work that offers them the highest level of reward. Realistically, many sex workers earn more money than their clients and work fewer hours. If sex work was decriminalized for women in America there is no question that the number of ladies joining the industry would skyrocket!

IN CONCLUSION

Understand that women will always choose to see men like me, and yes they do have a choice. There have been cases when women refuse to see me for one reason or another, I respect them and move on. There was also a case when a woman who saw me later told me that she did not wish to see me again, I have respected her wishes and moved on. It is known that I fundamentally respect the ladies I hire, and if I did not there are mechanisms in place (run by and for sex workers) that penalise buyers with bad reputations.

Hopefully this article has given food for thought to those who evangelize “criminalize the client” strategies. In the mean time I will continue to pay ladies their going rate for the privilege of their companionship, there is absolutely nothing that any puritan can do about that. Why? Because in all reality buyers have better technology than puritans, more money than puritans, and bigger balls than puritans. We are the people who pay your paychecks and run your governments and we are your fathers, brothers, co-workers, uncles, friends and cousins.

When the time comes to discuss techniques for a more humane and safety oriented environment for true victims our ears will be open. Until then I end this article with a giant FUCK YOU to the puritans for all of their melodramatic histrionics and never ending anti-trafficking bullshit. Get over it! For you sex and everything surrounding it is special, for us it is a profession/lifestyle.

My last post got a significant amount of response from the BItcoin community. Which makes me feel obliged to extend the concept to another essay.

I have spent a lot of money in my lifetime on paid companionship and feel very grateful for what I have received. The women who provide these essential services are truly the angels of mercy on Earth and deserve our respect and admiration.

The most depressing part of the lifestyle however is when one sees good women suffer. Sometimes ladies suffer from the actions of bad tricks who are either violent or unprofessional, but more often it seems that ladies are more concerned with the legal framework and sentencing. We think we have a solution to problem.

CONTEST

Starting today we want to start an experiment. This experiment will aim to give a significant amount of money to ladies of the industry. No intimacy required this time. The reward for participation is 1 Bitcoin (1 BTC-฿ = 12.86 USD-$).

HOW TO QUALIFY

In order to qualify for this free money, a lady must meet the following criteria.

• Submit your stage e-mail address only, no other personal information is needed.

• Active in the adult entertainment industry, personal services (i.e. escorting).

• Based in the United States, the currency system we are testing currently only works with USD.

• Provider candidates should be verifiable via screening service and/or review site. We reserve the right to deny payment if a lady presents an incomplete or deficient professional profile.

• The program currently has funding for the first 8 providers, we will release another post informing the reader base of the funding status of this project.

EXPECTATION

Once a provider has received their funds, we ask that she respond with a review of the service. Our goal is to make sure that the system is provider friendly. Is it private enough? Is it easy enough to use? If the system works we hope that all providers who have participated in the experiment will go forward and share their experience with other providers in their network.

GOAL

Our ultimate goal is to end the use of physical cash within the lifestyle and move all transactions to a e-commerce framework. This paradigm shift is well overdue, help us start the revolution!

Please take your time to read this entire blog post. I will attempt to describe a business plan which could in theory make some budding entrepreneur very rich. Why don’t I jump on the opportunity? I am simply too lazy.

To begin, let it be said that this blog maintains a thoroughly Libertarian slant. We stand for the legalization of all non-violent activities including but not limited to drug use, suicide, gambling, gay marriage and most of all the legalization of sex work.

Not so long ago the landscape for change in America seemed bleak, often times it seems as though America was a place where change came very slowly. The recent election was a moment of significant hope and excitement. Across the country voters legalized many controversial items including expanded gambling, decriminalizing marijuana and enabling gay marriage. All issues that this blog believes are worth fighting for.

So next in line would logically be sex work no? Well not quite, you see we are dealing with a serious issue of conflation, and for the time being sex work = trafficking for mainstream society. I will now attempt to make an argument for why this theory is full of holes and why we should move now to collapse the entire concept.

Sex is legal and giving money to others is also legal. All we have is a problem of timing. Remember, if I spend 5,000 USD on a woman on a date and then have intercourse later that afternoon it is not considered prostitution. Also, dating a sugar baby is also not prostitution, as long as time passes between giving money and receiving sex. Both have been examined, and both have been found to be entirely legal.

Enter Bitcoin and Silk Road.

• http://bitcoin.org

• https://bitcoinfoundation.org

• http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Silk_road_marketplace

• http://www.marketplace.org/topics/tech/stealthy-silk-road-website-flying-high

• http://arstechnica.com/tech-policy/2012/08/study-estimates-2-million-a-month-in-bitcoin-drug-sales

For those who are not aware of this phenomenon let me offer some background.

BITCOIN

An anonymous digital currency that is backed by mathematical algorithm. It is not issued by a country and has no physical form. All you need to know is that it is traded world wide and has an exchange rate with every currency on the planet.

SILK ROAD

An anonymous online marketplace where all vendors accept Bitcoins as the primary form of payment. The anonymous nature of Bitcoins and the marketplace itself makes it a highly desirable place to exchange currency for illegal drugs. The marketplace has been functional for years and is is bring in millions of dollars worth of income monthly.

MY EXPERIENCE ON SILK ROAD

I recently made my first purchase on Silk Road for 5 pills of OxyContin for approximately 7 Bitcoins. The website has two kinds of actors, vendors and purchasers. One chooses who to do business with based on their published reputation, which is based on the success of their prior transactions.

• First you make a purchase, the value of the purchase is subtracted from your account and placed into a escrow account until your product arrives.

• Once the product arrives in the mail the purchaser is expected to log into the website and finalize payment, releasing the BItcoins from escrow sends the payment to the vendor. At that time the purchaser is asked to rate the vendor on their timeliness and professionalism.

A very simple model, which seems to work like a charm. The wonderful part is that Silk Road itself does not deal in drugs, it is simply a marketplace of independent distributors.

THE BUSINESS MODEL FOR SEX WORK

My current work flow for finding a paid companion is to first go to the internet and find a suitable provider. Communication often takes place over e-mail and/or text message. Once a proper fit is established we come up with a date and time for our appointment. All of which is seen as legal.

The problem comes on the day of the appointment. I must before hand get cash and carry it with me to my appointment. Once I enter her living space with the money in hand I have now committed the heinous crime of prostitution evidenced by the hundreds of dollars on my person.

However if I arrive at her location without any cash on hand, then we are simply and man and a woman preparing for an intimate afternoon, completely legal. So why would she meet me without cash for exchange?

Lets say I change the workflow. After we establish a connection via e-mail and text message, I then go forward to place 36 Bitcoins in her escrow account (digitally). Upon arrival to her location I release the Bitcoins from escrow with my smart phone. All of a sudden, proof of prostitution is completely absent. The only thing we have left is consensual intimacy between two adults. Completely legal!

The reason why the system must be based on Bitcoin is that it is anonymous. Tricks can afford to release private information to providers, but providers usually require the highest level of privacy. There is no banking or credit system that allows the level of privacy needed. Bitcoin is the first version of truly anonymous currency, providers will love it once they get used to it.

This essay is a rough draft, perhaps the reader can think of a few areas where this business plan could be improved. The important piece is that a fully functional anonymous market for illegal drugs exists and is very successful. We need the same kind of market for sex work, there is absolutely no reason why it could not be equally successful!

UNDERSTAND THIS

The definitions of both prostitution and human trafficking are overwhelmingly vague, so much so that they are virtually indefinable. We have been struggling with this ridiculous argument for far too long.

Obviously activities that are legal when free MUST be legal when paid, it is simply common sense.

Whomever reads this essay and understands its content will be positioned to make enormous amounts of money on transaction fees alone. Lets end this ridiculous conversation once and for all. I dare you to make the first move!

It is common knowledge that once a man overcomes the moral and social stigma of hiring intimate companionship that he will likely have more intimate encounters with more beautiful women than he ever thought possible. Within that image of utopia what could possibly go wrong?

Enjoying a lifestyle of high frequency sexuality does come with certain risks and responsibilities whether it be paid or non-paid. The risk we will discuss in this article are those concerning STD/STI infection.

Let it be said that modern day upper end providers are known to be remarkably clean regarding STD/STI infection. The main reason for this is that modern professional providers have been relentlessly championing proper condom use and timely medical protocol.

That being said, regardless of how safely one practices the lifestyle some level of risk will always be present. Meaning that with proper condom use (if you have any doubts ask your provider for assistance, she is most likely an expert on the topic) the risk of contracting HIV, Gonorrhea or other major STIs should be reduced to almost 0%; however other minor STIs such as herpes and HPV are still a concern and should be seen as a potential risk when practicing a lifestyle of high frequency sexuality.

My inspiration for writing this article came as I recently had my scheduled medical check up with blood work and once again found myself free of disease after years of indulgence. My thought was that I should share some of the best practices that have kept me safe as a sort of public service to the tricking community.

Keep in mind that my goal is not to brag. My sexual profile is not very different than that of any other professional trick, meaning that I am no special case alpha male. To put things in perspective, I am disease free after several decades within the lifestyle. Indeed I have had intimate relations with countless women representing almost every race and nationality the world has to offer. So you might ask, what kind of health penalty must one suffer for living such a sexually irresponsible lifestyle? The answer is, a hand full of cases mostly related to minor skin infections, all of which were treated and healed within short order.

SECRETS TO STAYING HEALTHY WITHIN THE LIFESTYLE

• Always shower before and after any intimate episode. If possible, shower with your prospective intimate partner. The experience is not only hygienic, it also can be super sensual and an excellent form of foreplay.

• Live by the condom, love the condom, take pride in the condom! Too many tricks yearn for condom free activities feeling that they are somehow missing out on more intense sensations. In reality this is very backwards thinking as sex with condoms can be highly rewarding as long as those involved are in the right frame of mind. Remember sexuality is mostly mental. Also remember, providers love tricks who love condoms!

• Switch doctors, join a LGBT friendly practice. There are very few medical organizations that cater to tricks and/or providers, but gay friendly practices are a close second alternative. Such organizations are familiar with liberal sexual lifestyles and are supportive regarding issues related to detecting and treating HIV and other STIs. Many offer rapid HIV tests that can produce diagnosis within 20 minutes or less, and most offer onsite blood work. Conventional medical practices should be avoided as they are known to discriminate and might treat you like a pariah once they find out that you have had a few hundred sexual partners within the last few years.

• Avoid unprotected oral sex. This is a controversial recommendation that many will have difficulty adhering to as it is so widely practiced. But for maximum safety we recommend that bodily fluid not be transferred to any orifice including the mouth.

IN CONCLUSION

There are many unsaid secrets in life. One such secret is that life for most men in the modern age is quite unpleasant. A large portion of men in our modern society are fighting a loosing battle for happiness, they are stuck in a world of obsolete rules inherited from a bygone era. Our science has evolved but many of our lifestyles have not. We should never ridicule uninformed men, we should simply respond to them with empathy and always maintain an open door policy for them when they reach out to us in desperation.

For evolved men life has never been better. Medical technology has delivered an incredible amount of sexual freedom and protection within a short time frame. We live in a more sexually free environment than any group of men in the history of the world. Never before have we had wider options for safe intimate encounters with such a large pool of incredibly high caliber women. We should always remain grateful and never abuse this incredible privilege.

The reality is that many females are receptive to the idea of being paid for intimacy that is safe, discrete and respectful. Especially if certain ground rules are met. This is the unsaid fear that drives moralists crazy, the idea that a woman might enjoy being paid for her intimate time and that she will not suffer with a penalty of unwanted pregnancy or disease. The goal of such moralists is a smear campaign loaded with propaganda that is both emotional and irrational. Unfortunately for the moralists the genie is out of the bottle and there is no turning back. No matter how passionately they attempt to smear our lifestyle their attacks are simply no match for the tidal wave of intimacy that information and medical technology has released. Behold the age of intimacy and economics, the shackles are finally coming loose!

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Americans are well known for their love of sensationalism. No matter what the topic, the American media will seek out the most egregious offenses ever recorded and replay it to the public as if it is standard procedure. This is true whether we speak of robbery, drug use, rape, assault or trafficking. Americans simply seem addicted to over exaggeration.

The film which we will review today is Eden (2012), modeled after the real story of human trafficking survivor Chong Kim. This film made its debut at South by Southwest (SXSW) in Austin recently to rave review. It was so highly reviewed that yours truly could not wait to get his hands on it.

In reality I thought this movie was a cartoon caricature trying to render an emotional reaction. For those who respect the victims of human trafficking, this movie is a little bit insulting. The main character (Jamie Chung) lives up to the stereotype of the helpless Asian female caught in a spectacular drama of an underworld sex trafficking network. As would be suspected she is completely naive and falls for a handsome white male who eventually sells her off into slavery. Ultimately she works herself up the ranks of the network, arguable becoming an accomplice to the trafficking activities of the organization. Finally, she gains freedom and reconnects with her family.

Honestly, the film is so predictable that I could have regurgitated the screenplay without having seen the film. Either way, there is a serious message to this story.

LETS LEARN FROM HISTORY

There was a time in America when Alcohol was illegal. During this time gangsters fought with Tommy guns in the streets over the right to distribute (i.e. traffick) illegal alcohol products. Since then we have legalized the sale and consumption of alcohol, with this policy change alcohol related distribution violence has fallen to near zero. Instead of competing with violence, the distributors of alcohol now compete with advertising campaigns.

A CRY OUT TO THE ANTI TRAFFICKING COMMUNITY

We know that many of you wish that all sex work would simply disappear. That perhaps through the use of “criminalize the client” laws or perhaps the Swedish model, that there would simply be no demand for this activity. Personally I can tell you that no matter what the penalty, many people will continue to practice and consume sex work. This being said what are the options on the table.

Help us help you. We do not want to hire victims and slaves, but under the current system of criminalization it is hard to tell who is who. We offer you a challenge! Come up with a sustainable system for us to follow, we are open to rational discourse. The only unacceptable answer is abolition. It did not work in the past, and it certainly will not work in the future. Think about it and respond with some reasonable suggestions, our ears are open.

Take this day to wish all providers in your network a Happy thanksgiving! Even if it is only a quick e-mail or text message, it is the thought that counts.

The only thing most tricks want is female companionship, but unfortunately the sex industry tends to attract unsavory conditions from time to time. Slavery is argued to be one of them.

To understand slavery in this context we must see it in terms of the capitalistic system. Slavery in the context of sex work is often termed as undesirable subsistence labor without the ability to leave. By this definition we understand that many actors in the capitalistic system could be considered slaves including those who grow and harvest our food, build our housing and clean our hotel rooms. Sex slavery is considered to be more heinous because it involves gasp sex, and to many people sex is a sacred gift to be shared only with the one we love and only after matrimony.

This blog hopes that any man considering becoming a professional trick do so with respect for women and the lifestyle in general. That being said, this essay will attempt to help the modern professional trick circumvent unsavory venues in favor of venues occupied by voluntary professional providers.

First, let it be said that sex work is indeed work. Women who enter this field do indeed look at the money involved as a major factor (not to ruin your high, but that perfect 10 model in your arms likely would be somewhere else had it not been for the 800 USD you placed on her counter top). That being said, this alone does not make the lifestyle wrong or immoral.

Just like any form of work, sex work has its ups and downs. It is important to understand that there is no type of work more scrutinized for satisfaction than sex work. So much so that if a provider is not jumping for joy each minute of the day antagonists accuse her of being a coerced, abused, enslaved and/or trafficked. However if a gardener, janitor, child care worker, police officer, teacher, lawyer or agricultural worker expresses low job satisfaction she is told to suck it up. Indeed sex work at times seems to be the only female occupation where satisfaction is monitored on a regular basis and used as a validation criteria.

In reality, the reasons why women enter the field are varied and cannot be easily generalized. Our jobs as tricks is to make sure it continues to be worth their while. The professional trick should spend his money ethically by hiring providers who are genuine professionals; as opposed to miserable souls being threatened by deportation, violence or drug withdrawal.

GUIDELINES FOR FINDING VOLUNTARY PROFESSIONAL PROVIDERS

• Her hourly rate is a factor, but it depends on the situation. In general the higher her rate the less chance she is a slave. For instance, a provider who charges 600 - 800 USD for a 2 hour session is unlikely to be a slave. Women who are enslaved are often driven to achieve high volume which can only be achieved by offering lower rates, my rule of thumb is that a rate lower than 200 USD per hour for full service is a red flag.

• See providers who speak good English (or the native language of your country). Having sessions with beautiful women who you cannot communicate with is a red flag. Without conversation you are both doing each other a disservice.

• Avoid women known to abuse heavy drugs. Such women tend to have poor judgement in general and could expose you to elevated levels of risk. Also, such providers cannot by definition be professionals and will have difficulty providing you with a truly enjoyable session.

• Do not ask or accept offers for unprotected sex with a provider ever! First, you should not want this based on your instinct for self preservation. Second, she should not want this for the same reasons. Providers who are open to unprotected acts should be avoided, these are women who most likely have either poor judgement or broken spirits or both.

• Choose women who have personal contact information. If you cannot call or e-mail your provider it means that she is being managed externally. This in and of itself is not bad as many agencies and parlours follow such procedures while not engaging in abusive coercion. But understand, that you are not dealing with a truly free woman if she does not have the ability to communicate with you at will.

• Make sure that your provider can accept your contact information. Many agencies and parlours restrict providers from accepting contact information from tricks, this should be seen as a red flag. These kind of practices lead many upscale tricks to an “independent provider only” policy, one where communication is free and open.

• Finally, providers who blog and/or use Twitter are almost never slaves. They tend to have higher rates (often in the ballpark of 400 - 500 USD per hour) and lower volumes. They also, tend to have stables of repeat clients who come to them for a variety of reasons. This is the kind of provider who often acts as part shrink, part confidant and part sexual partner. This kind of provider is the most satisfying and most economical, lets do some math.

THE COSTS (LOW END)

low quality girlfriend + low quality provider + shrink = 800+ USD / month

THE COSTS (HIGH END)

high quality provider = 500 USD / month

You see, it is in your best interest to seek the highest quality escort available. Having sex with slaves is not economically sensible, especially if you find yourself also maintaining a low quality wife/girlfriend and a shrink. Think before you spend, get the most out of your experience. Unlike the experience many men have in the civilian world, men who see escorts get the chance to choose which women they spend time with. There is no need to pretend (like you might with a civilian woman) that a woman is interesting just so that you can get in her pants. With escorts a man needs not pretend, if his session is not a match he can simply move along to the next until he finds the right fit. In the escorting world it is common place to expect a woman to be smart, funny and pleasurable to be with. Over time you will find that sex is only a side benefit of the lifestyle.

ONE WARNING
Before one gets started in this lifestyle it is important to understand that it is addictive. When you go escort you are unlikely to ever turn back to the conservative lifestyle you might have come from. To some this is an enormous risk, for me however the decision to spend my days with escorts was the best decision that I have ever made. I have no regrets and I have no hesitation in recommending this lifestyle to other men who feel trapped by a system that makes little or no sense financially, sexually or emotionally. Welcome to relationship 2.0!